Telling On Ourselves

Forgiveness

FTW:  Lynn about taking things personally and letting it go. 

Forgiveness definition: Letting go of past grudges or lingering resentments against a person or situation. 

To let go I have to take the action--clean my side of the street. What am I responsible for? Sometimes the only thing I’m responsible for is my reaction to someone else.

Nightly Inventory & Self Care

Poop bags, Jackals and getting our dander up!

Little behaviors can be worse than big behaviors.

Death by 1000 paper cuts

Taking responsibility vs. Gossiping commiserating.

You don’t have to catch a hot potato. 

Living Amends

New Prefix for the Suicide hotline new 9-8-8

 

How to keep your serenity & sobriety during the holidays!

Episode 30 is filled with some REAL DEAL tips we have used during our recovery & self development journeys to stay in a healthy place!  

FTW:  Bre’s first thought wrong started last year in the holidays and she has a big important message.

Tips:  1. Move a muscle change a thought

2. Take a sober/like minded friend with you
3. Leave when it gets loud/exit strategy
4. Take a pass on going to the party
5. Book end:  call someone when walking in and when leaving or during
6. Find or host sober only events
7. Don’t brood
8. Be of service at the party:  help with food, clean up, babies etc
9. Enjoy the beauty of the love of the season
10. Don’t take wooden nickels

Jan 6th reading in the 24 hours a day book a super important part of our recovery. 

Seasonal depression stress and water drops that make the grand canyon

Emotional relapse as an indication/precursor to physical relapse.

 

 

How to RecoverYourself with MartinJon

We have a very special guest this week, MartinJon from the Recover Yourself Podcast.  We got to find out how he has gotten to almost 19 years of continuous sobriety. 

Definition corner: 

Recovery 

Process of change through which individuals improve their health and wellness live a self directed life to reach their full potential

FTW- MartinJon talks about adventures with texting!  

He does all types of great work including art with recovery!  

Please check out MartinJon's podcast @applepodcasts

Golden nuggets:

Discomfort is part of being present 

You can’t un ring a bell

Luxuries are gained by sacrifice of others.

 

Finding Your Tribe

This week we are off site on a weekend filled with all kinds of sober fun!  It's our overtired version of how we found our tribe.  

First Thought Wrong - Vikki is reading an email in a passive aggressive voice, for no apparent reason. 

We talk about how much our tribe helps us in our recovery and our life. 

 

 

The 5th Agreement - Skeptical much?

5th agreement be skeptical but learn to listen:  Don't believe yourself or anybody else.  Use the power of doubt to question everything you hear.  Is it really the truth?Listen to the intent behind words, and you will understand the real message.

 

First Thought Wrong: 

Lynn wins this week as she learns a workplace lesson.....Not here.

 

Symbols are only the truth because we agree with them

We all have an invisible back pack that has our feelings, experiences, and triggers..

“The truth doesn’t need you to believe it, it just is.”

It's all about communication! 

 

 

 

4th Agreement - Always Do Your Best & Use the Ranch Dressing

There is a misconception that in order to feel like you’ve done your best work, you have to work until the moment you burn out. I had always considered giving my best effort something that required me hitting a high standard that I’ve set for myself alongside standards other people have set for me. After a lot of reflection, I realized the standards of “doing one’s best” can be whatever you want it to be. 

We discuss how “doing your best” changes from day to day. Also how doing your best is dependent on the previous 3 agreements and their interconnectedness.

Lynn has a funny first thought wrong about having her thunder stolen.

 

3rd Agreement - Don't be a Donkey

We are discussing the wonderful book again The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.  The third agreement is "Don't Make Assumptions:  Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and DRAMA.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life."

First thought Wrong:  Bre shares the follow up to her speaking engagement.  We all discover that taking compliments is a place we can all improve.  

Definitions:  the act of taking something for granted. Lynn says way more!  

Check out the giveaway for the book from Awkward and Awesome Coaching:  http://bit.ly/2pHWJMz4agreements

Tribe Out! 

2nd Agreement - Don't Take Anything Personally

This week we tackle the 2nd agreement - Don't Take Anything Personally, from the Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.  "Nothing others do is because of you."  

First thought wrong is all about scheduling and being available for yourself and others. 

This agreement takes us through many twists and turns, but ultimately this agreement is such a gift. 

We are in the Agreements-Being Impeccable with your word.

This week we discuss the 1st of the Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.  "Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself and or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love."

First thought wrong, Lynn has a moment of "What part of I don't know are you not getting?"

We go through the 1st agreement this week and will continue on the next few weeks!  Also, we take a major left turn with some movie recommendations and then back to the good stuff.

 

 

What we have here is COMMUNICATION

Our 22nd episode is filled to the brim with all kinds of communication tips, tricks and yep some fails! 

First thought wrong Vikki has a moment with a vape...

How there is a communication sender, message and receiver.  

We talk today about how we communicate, how we help ourselves when we go down the rabbit hole instead of listening.